You can login to eharmony here but before you do, is it worth the effort?
Eharmony markets itself as an online dating site that helps you find a serious, long-lasting relationship. It uses its patented Compatibility Matching System®, which allows members to be matched with compatible persons with whom they are likely to enjoy a long-term relationship.
Sounds rather techy! The main question is - does it actually work? Can computer AI really ask some in-depth questions and then find what most people struggle to find their entire lives? Is AI better at finding the love of your life than you are?
Lets Get Personal
The main reason eharmony is successful in finding good matches for its members is because it collects lots, and lots (and lots) of information about you, as well as everybody else that uses their service.
Yes, other online dating services collect information about you as well, like your favorite book, favorite hotspots (easy, cowboy), height, weight, religion, if you like cats or dogs, etc. Combined with the 500 characters or less profile you've written, that is everything others will know about you.
Compare that to the information eharmony collects, with questions to find out about the following: self concept, emotional status, emotional energy, obstreperousness, romantic passion, character, kindness, dominance, sociability, autonomy, adaptability, intellect, curiosity, humor, artistic passion, …….(take a breath)…..physical energy, sexual passion, vitality and security, industry, appearance, communication style, emotional management of anger, emotional management of mood, …..(one more breath, two if you’re out of shape)…..conflict resolution, spirituality, family goals, traditionalism, ambition, and altruism.
Obstreperousness? Is that when you don’t have enough calcium in your diet causing your bones to get brittle? Wow! Wouldn’t it be great to know if that guy who is holding a puppy in all his profile pics, while helping your grandmother across the street, while feeding the hungry, also has brittle bones? Yes, it would be.
Alas, no, obstreperousness refers to "a person’s tendency to find fault, to attribute blame to someone else, to make other people wrong, and to portray themselves as always right. The obstreperous person is someone who has a consistently critical attitude. The more pessimistic a person is, the more likely they are to be obstreperous."
Don’t worry, I had no idea what obstrewhatnot was either. For a good description of all of the items in the list above, go to https://www.eharmony.co.uk/dating-advice/using-eharmony/eharmony-29-dimensions-compatibility-explained#.XG33tGdlKrQ
We know what you're thinking... holy f, that is ALOT of detailed information about things that I would care about if I was looking for a partner.
So why exactly does collecting all of that information work? First, the more information you have about someone, the greater chance you have of knowing what truly makes them tick. Look at the list again, and imagine that you know even just a little about someone in all of those areas.
Second, eharmony takes the lots and lots (and lots) of information about you, and uses its patented matching machine to match you with the most compatible members on the site.
You're not reading profiles and deciding if someone's level of vitality or bone brittleness is a good match for you. The matching machine does that for you. It makes those matches based on features of compatibility found in thousands of successful relationships.
What Does It Cost?
Your momma once told you that you get what you pay for. If she didn’t, you missed out on one of life’s best lessons. Eharmony is about $60 per month, around twice the cost of a service like Match.com. That amounts to $2 a day for eharmony, compared to $1 a day for Match.com.
But what if it was $5 a day for eharmony? Or $10? Step back and remind yourself why you’re doing this. Yes, that’s right, to find love. Not the best butter chicken recipe. LOVE.
You may currently be spending $3.90 a day on a venti frappe grande dark-roast skim vanilla low-fat hazelnut latte on your way to work every morning. And while delicious, that scalding hot yum-yum is highly unlikely to help you find love. Ditch the frappe for a month, pay the $2 a day, and have $1.90 left over. Or use it to buy a small coffee so you can still get your caffeine buzz.
Remember, eharmony isn’t like any other online dating service you’ll find for the reasons listed above.
At $2 per day, that’s a steal. Especially given what you’re trying to find. Consider it a tiny investment, with a potentially mad grande return.
Here is an another actual benefit of the cost….it increases the chances that only people as serious as you are about finding good matches will be members on the site.
Too Much Effort?
Your momma also once said that attaining something great takes hard work, and the hard work requires effort, and the effort requires time. Well maybe she didn’t say that, but she should have.
The other con besides price that is being screeched about in online comments and reviews is how long it takes to fill out the questionnaire.
So what if it took you two days to fill it out? Again, step back and ask yourself why you’re doing this. Exactly, not butter chicken. You want to give the other members, and yourself, the best chance possible to find the best match possible.
You are looking for something great. Putting in the time is a tiny investment, for that grande.
And, as with cost, the benefit of the time it takes to create a profile increases the chances that only people as serious as you are about finding quality matches will be members on the site. Sound familiar?
Eharmony’s success rate may or may not be what they claim, but the same goes for any other online dating service.
What’s important to remember is that eharmony collects a huge amount of detailed, relevant information about their members, and that in itself increases your chances of finding someone with whom you can connect. Add to that their matching machine, and you have an online dating service unlike any other.
In our opinion, it is definitely worth a try. While saving $1.90 a day.